Attended a wedding reception last night. Sat next to Don and Philly.
Haven’t talked to them in years.
Lots of laughter coming from our table @ the reception I was told.
Told them I’d been talking about them just the week before! 🙂
“No wonder my ears were burning.” Philly said.
“It had to do with parenting I said. I remember one of them making the comment, years ago, that one of their goals as parents was, if one of their kids was acting up at a basketball game, all they had to do was to look across the gym and their child would straighten up.”
Don gave me a knowing smile.
(None of this, “I’m going to count to three stuff or else.”)
Then I reminded them about another conversation that we’d had with them during that same season of our lives.
(A conversation to this day ranks as one of the all time most helpful, most impacting, conversations of my life.)
The conversation had to do with sex.
Philly was an RN, same age as my mom. We as a couple were dealing with the normal tension and stress many couples experience in the area of sexuality. Don and Philly were attending the same church we were at the time, and even though they’d been married 40 years, there was definitely a “spark” in their relationship. They were doing something right. I really wanted to pick their brain. When I need input in my life, I would much rather talk with someone with practical experience than one who is just book smart. Out of desperation really, we reached out to them as a couple to see if we could talk to them about the area of sexuality. Don suggested we talk to Philly, because of her background and personality, she was more than happy to do so.
We ended up driving around town while we talked.
Think Private conversation with Dr Phil 😉
Where no question was a dumb question.
What about ___________?
What about ____________?
On and on.
Conversation went on for a good hour.
Laugh….boy did we laugh. 🙂
You can cover a lot of ground in an hour if you have to.
Came away from our time together both of us feeling heard.
We were able to untangle some knots in our relationship, that frankly, I’m not sure we would have ever been able to untangle on our own.
Don and Philly are in the mid 80’s now. There is still a spark in their relationship.
Don and Philly, thank you for being willing to open your lives to a young struggling couple.