Got a phone call at 7:30 this morning from my sister-in-law. She was standing @ the contractor’s desk at Home Depot, trying to order materials for their basement remodel. She told me the other day when we were talking, she was starting to “get it”…as in the lingo, construction lingo..the difference between studs, and plate material, white wood, treated, types of insulation, the purpose of a vapor barrier..fire blocking, etc. etc.
She still has questions but I have been amazed at how quickly she has picked things up. Heck I still run into situations all the time that I’m not familiar with and I’ve been around it for over 40 years. Life lesson: Better to speak up and ask, than bluff and pay the piper later.
While we were on the phone, My mind went to an article I’d been carrying around in my wallet since October. We’d spent the weekend at our daughters watching the grand kids and an article from American Hunter magazine caught my eye. It was about a young home schooling mother and her 10 year old daughter who hunt moose for the tribal people in Alaska. Fascinating story:
“When a seasoned mother-daughter from Alaska visits our man in Idaho, for some turkey hunting lessons, the line between mentor and pupil becomes blurred”
The writer talked about taking this mother/ daughter turkey hunting…something totally new to them (even though they hunt for a living.)
“My new friends Martha and Elli came to Dancing Springs Ranch at the start of last turkey season. Neither had ever seen a turkey in the wild, and they knew precious little about shotguns.
“I have a Mossberg youth model pump 20-gauge that should fit you guys pretty well,” I announced, thinking this would impress them.
“What’s a pump 20-gauge?” Elli asked.
“You don’t know what a pump 20-gauge is?” I didn’t really say that, but that’s what popped into my head. Isn’t this typical for experienced hunters? We assume everyone should know this basic stuff and being human, we leap at the opportunity to show off our “superior” knowledge.
We win no converts by intimidating or insulting them.
Having been in the learners corner myself multiple times, I’ve experienced both, great teachers and condescending, arrogant twits,
My memories are still fresh.
(I tried to get my CDL class A semi drivers license a couple of times a few years go…that world is full of twits, and I still don’t have my license. 😉
Same thing happened when I went to a local gun shop a few years ago. My ability to talk the lingo is still limited. Some of the guys behind the counter I encountered were awesome, and one in particular was a class A twit.
When I was gearing up to teach a college level construction program, it was a steep learning curve…but the school I was working for was a class act. I was surrounded by patient people.)
So the next time you find yourself talking to someone with little or no knowledge of some area that you do know, think before you open your mouth, and get impatient. Think about the person in front of you and the last time you were in over your head in a new area of life.
Be nice. 🙂
Someone will love you for it.
What areas of life do you have a working knowledge? (You don’t have to consider yourself “an expert.” Maybe it’s a hobby you dabble in, so something you used to do for a job… really the list is endless… But if someone came to you with a question, you know enough to at least point them in the right direction? 🙂
I would love to get a list of the areas of interest represented in this readership.
Once a few of you have commented, I will add my list in the comment section. No brag/ just fact. DM