I was just getting settled into my seat on the plane. We were part of a large group traveling to an out of state wedding when from the back of the plane some little kid (turned out to be from our group) started screaming “Fu@k you!, Fu#k you!!!”
On and on…(at his mother, who was trying to get him strapped in.)
Mother was aghast. She did the best she could to shush him, but he didn’t stop. He finally quit screaming, out of exhaustion.
Flash forward to last week.
Same branch of the family…..
They now have a Little Boy.
Last week his Grandpa from Germany flew in town for the week. He was having a conversation with the grandpa from Amerika. (This would be the father of the little boy on the plane from 20 years ago.)
Little Boy has been running around the living room in a large circle, saw visiting grandpa standing in his way, screamed at him to move, proceeded to spit at him. Grandpa from Germany didn’t hesitate, grabbed grandson, said “you will NOT spit on me,” picked him up, gave him a well placed swat on the backside. Little Boy having never (as far as I know) ever experienced anything like this in his life, began to cry. Father of Little Boy, heard the commotion came up from the basement, took Little Boy away…few minutes later, took his dad off to the side and informed him, they do not believe in physical punishment in their home/ ever.
Grandpa from Germany, did not apologize, did not back down. For the rest of his visit, there is an under current of tension.
Unbeknownst to him, he (the grandpa) is now on the naughty list.
(I got this story 2nd hand last night from a first hand witness,)
I know this stuff shouldn’t vex me (but it does.)
We’ve raised 4 children into adulthood, that all still love to come home and hang out. I’ve taught in multiple settings, (mostly Jr High, and one year of high school). I learned early on, if the respect (and fear of consequences) is not there, you are in for a ride.
Talk to me.
I’m trying to process and shake this off.