OF Grit and Bone 8/7/2021

Phone rang about 5:40 AM a week ago Friday.

When the phone rings @ 5:40 AM, that’s normally not good.

It wasn’t.

Our neighbor to the west was calling. I could hear panic in her voice.

Doug, can you help me?

D. (her sister) had fallen again.

D lives alone. She is in her 80’s. Sharp as a tack mentally, but her body is falling apart.

This was the 2nd time in a week, I’d gotten a call to ask if I could help with D. A week ago, I built her a couple of ramps so she could maneuver her walker into the bathroom, and a second larger ramp to get out of the house:



D is wrestling with the same issue some of you and all of us eventually get to wrestle with if we live long enough. Physically no longer able to live alone yet unwilling to relocate to some type of care facility.


On a completely different note. I had another successful “walk away bee split” this week. That makes three for three.

What a rush to pop open the hive and see new brood! (Brood are eggs that have been capped)

Capped brood (photo by others)
I was telling my son about the inner workings of a honeybee hive, and how they instinctively sense when there is no queen.

It has not lost it’s magic…. the gentle manipulation and management of honeybees.


On Wednesday, I made a trip to the University of Iowa hospitals to see a retina specialist. (I had cataract laser surgery and tri-focal implants late February and early March.) Left eye has not been right ever since.

It turns out I have a large blob of normal age related protein that has somehow “folded in on itself” and is floating in the jelly portion of my eye, right in the line of sight. (It moves back and forth, and blocks 1/4 to 1/3 of my vision. There are three options…

#1 Do nothing, it “will probably eventually settle.”

#2 Attempt to blow it to smithereens with a laser.”

#3, “Make some small incisions and scrape all of the jelly out of your eye and replace it with some made made solution.”

Options # 2 and 3 both carry with them a fair amount of risk, and are not guaranteed.

Compared to my friend “D” whose ramp I built a week ago. my quality of life is right @ the top of the scale. Funny how that works. It’s all about perspective.


Last night our family got together to celebrate my parents 65th wedding anniversary.

65 years!

It seems almost surreal.

We had a house guest live with us back in 2013. Liberal young woman from the East coast. She could not get over how many long term relationships there were in the people she met in our area. We were talking about the 5 serious relationships she’d had up until then, was single again, and wondered if she’d ever find someone else.

Before we left the party last night I attacked by one of my grandchildren: She snuggled and hugged me profusely. It was the highlight of my night. 🙂


Thanks for staying in touch. Always enjoy bantering with each and every one of you!

ps We also had a serendipitous visit from a fellow blogger last week. She was traveling from Colorado to Pennsylvania. She spent two nights our B and B suite. It was good to catch up.

You probably already know this, but if @ any time you that I regularly banter with are in our neck of the woods, don’t hesitate to reach out. I get that some of you prefer to keep your identity obscure. I get it. If on the other hand you’re like me, and love to meet your fellow bloggers, we’ll leave the light on.

29 thoughts on “OF Grit and Bone 8/7/2021

  1. Re: your eyes. I had a nickel-sized circle of blurred vision right in the middle of my field of vision, caused by the same thing. My eye doc said, “It’s going to annoy the heck out of you, but eventually it will get absorbed and go away.” It did go away. I’m trying to remember how long it took, and I can’t. Maybe it was a month, or a little longer. Anyway, that was my experience. Very occasionally I’ll have smaller vitreous detachments, and they can disappear within a week.

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  2. Have to comment on the eye issue Doug: same thing happened to me after my procedure and I also went the same route as shoreacres describes. It was annoying as hell for a long time every time I blinked, but it did go away. I also had a lot of pushing to have a laser process on my retina on the off chance that there might be a small area with a possible tear. I did not not do that either. There were just too many if’s and maybe’s for me to feel good about any options. I’d suggest that you use that inner gut wisdom to help you decide. Take care.

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    • thanks Deb! Yep, my “gut wisdom” is telling me no way/ nada, am I going to let them “zap” “scrape” or suck the jelly out of my eyeball. Had a conversation w/ another carpenter last Spring who had 3 eye surgery procedures (for something different) and after each surgery, things got worse. I’m going w/ plan A. Let time do what it will and call it good. DM

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    • Cool!. There is just so much that happens in the hive I had no idea about. The more I learn, the more in awe I am…and to think all of this stuff, happens in complete darkness.

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    • Love it! it is about being thankful. I don’t want to morph into one of those old people who rehearse all of their aches and pains..I want to be an old person who is encouraging to be around.

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  3. I hope you have some improved results with your eyes, DM. I also have a big blob in one of my eyes that the cataract surgery did nothing for. For some reason my eye doc doesn’t think it’s a big problem. I’m waiting for him to get one and see if he changes his mind! Seriously, it’s no fun. Best wishes.

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  4. I’m really worried about all the people like your neighbor who are not going to be able to take care of themselves. Our society is not set up to take care of the elderly . Nursing homes are awful and those assisted living places are way too expensive. Sorry to hear the eye is still a problem . But that’s cool that one of your readers has personal experience to share. Love the pic of you and your grand daughter! PS , I have Covid. Prayers appreciated that it won’t last long since I’ve already had it once .

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  5. A couple of comments: the elderly neighbor is living at home on borrowed time, the next fall could put her into the hospital/rehab center and she never goes home again. Someone has walked her through this conversation, right? Love the photo with your grand-daughter, those heartfelt hugs are simply the best. The bee stories always make me smile and wonder, all in one, and your eye – are you just seeing what happens? I don’t recall seeing an answer. Hope it goes as planned and you recover ok! MJ

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    • regarding the elderly neighbor. Yep, her children and sister (my neighbor) have talked to her about all of these details and it falls on deaf ears. I suggested, more than once, just have someone come into the house to do an evaluation to see what she needs to be able to live there long term ..including ramps, what kind of help and how often, etc. etc. like talking to a stump.


      • ~sigh, this was my FIL. A fall broke his hip last fall, he went in via ambulance, had hip surgery, went to rehab 2 days later and 2 weeks after that he came home. He was not ready. He made it 2 days before he went back to the hospital via ambulance. We managed his care remotely b/c of COVID and it was up, down and all around. The fall revealed a host of issues ~ he went on hospice, survived that, made it to assisted living (where he really did want to go all along) and lived 5 weeks. He died in May. Those stumps are sure hard to deal with, and I know from experience 😦 I hope it works out for her but I have my doubts. You’re a wonderful person for racing to help, over and over again. But then I knew that about you! ~MJ

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        • I had not realized you had all of that going on last year…that would have been a tough emotional time..compounded with the covid restrictions.. wow


          • Yes the CVID restrictions + everything else made a painful situation excrutiating. Lesson learned – make sure your contacts are up to date in your ICE (in case of Emergency) in medical records. When he went in hospital he didn’t have info with him, this was Hubbs Step Dad so different last names. The hospital called his 78 y.o. brother who does not answer phone calls from anyone he does not know. My FIL was in critical care for 5 days and we could not get information (different last names, we were not on file, could not go there to sort it out). I could write a book …………..anyways, I hope your neighbor soars through all this but it’s good to have a plan in the event something goes sideways because it can ~~ Take care! MJ

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