It is not my responsibility

Talk to ten carpenters and you’ll get 7 different ways to frame a house.

Same goes for bee keepers, I’ve discovered. Talk to ten bee keepers and you’ll probably hear 10 different ways to manage your bees.

Have you found that to be true, my fellow bee keepers? 🙂

My cousin approached me in July and asked if I could help him frame his house the end of October,  which is  where I have been working the past two weeks.  Cousin  asked a friend of his,  ( a finish carpenter)  to head up the crew  so my role was just to be an extra set of hands.


On rare occasions, when I have had a new guy on my crew with a construction background, it was draining if the new guy constantly had a “better idea.”

Get’s old fast, so I have made a concerted effort to not be that guy.

I love  framing houses but the past two weeks have left me mentally exhausted.

I have felt like a race horse pulling a skid.


We’re getting about half as much  done that we should be and it has had been bothering the heck out of me.

My suspicion is the foreman does not have a lot of  experience managing a 5 man crew.  Compounding that is finish carpenters typically do not make good framers and vice versa…they are used to working at a certain pace.

Yesterday I got to work thinking we were going to button up the bulk of the remaining roof (snow was predicted again last night).   The first 45 minutes when it was just myself,  and a couple of helpers  we kicked butt.  One of the guys looked at me as we finished  the west hip and said, “Now that was fun!”

He knows.

45 minutes later the lead guy showed up, and that was the end of a productive day.  No additional roof went on.   I had to step back and mentally keep  telling myself,







It is not my responsibility.


It is not my responsibility.


But it’s hard when you care.



Today was the last day I’ll probably be on that job.

Felt good to be home. 🙂

Anybody relate to any of this?





19 thoughts on “It is not my responsibility

  1. We’ve probably all been there at some point Doug! Clearly you have an immense amount of patience and are able to listen to that little voice. So many jobs are all about “teamwork” and that’s great if the team has a leader who can lead. If not the days can be incredibly long. Despite the disagreeable policies of the company I work for, I do love that I am my own boss when at work. It’s profoundly rewarding to know what needs doing, how to do it, and have the ability to simply get it done without needing to answer to someone else or follow their plan of action.

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    • You just described 90% of my days (“I am my own boss, know what needs to be done, how to do it, and have the ability to do it (and the rest as well) Appreciate you taking the time to read and leave a comment 🙂 DM

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  2. I do understand–but 10 beekeepers probably will yield you 20 opinions. Not everyone can work on a team, and only a tenth of them, can lead a team. If only we could all learn from the bees, and just do what needs to be done.

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      • Yes, mostly. We consolidated the hives (smaller for winter is better) and at the same time we harvested. We installed quilt boxes on the re-configured hives–with sugar candy for cold weather insurance and pine shavings to reduce moisture. We haven’t yet insulated with rigid–because we intend to move the hives into the new barn for the hardest part of winter (and it’s harder to move them when insulated.) The barn is not heated, so the move will just buffer the worst of the weather, and the winds. If we can minimize the roller-coaster highs and lows, it will help to minimize excess honey consumption. Right now, with weather in the mid-thirties to low forties, is exactly where we want them, cool and somewhat dormant, but not eating up reserves to survive. That about wraps it up–any other questions?

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  3. Too often the case, I stopped working as part of a team way ago.
    Old school trade training meant you knew enough to work on any aspect of a job without being micromanaged. Problem is there aren’t enough ‘management’ that appreciate that.
    Rather like being a temp.
    You often find yourself way more qualified, and loads more experienced, than the idiot in charge.

    After that, for me, it is only a matter of time before that irks me enough to say something.
    Chuckle. And shortly after that one of three things happens.
    You get laid off, you leave before you punch his lights out (that happened a lot), or the REAL BOSS gives you the idiots job (yes that happened too).

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  4. …………. relate on this on soooooooo many levels.

    Tip #1: there are no “good” leaders, there are just leaders.

    And the ones who blather on about leadership rarely exhibit it, in my experience anyways.

    I’ll bet you’re glad to be home 🙂


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    • Your comment validated what I was feeling. You got that right about glad to be home. 🙂 so what would you say about your current situation(s) at work? I would love to job shadow you for a week and see what your weeks are like!


      • my situation varies week to week — I have had (5) bosses in 2.5 years, all out of state. Depending on the current state of chaos/mayhem week to week my weeks can be extremely calm/well planned out (my preference) or bingo-bongo-reactionary (their style). 🙂 I’ll say this, it’s never dull! ~ MJ Glad my comments helped confirm what you already knew!!

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  5. At the start of my project, I would have been like your team lead. Towards the end of it, I would be more like… in your position. (I almost said like you – lol I don’t have that much construction experience)
    I try, but still learning how to only offer my opinion (or my way of doing things) if asked. If a situation is very dire, I might ask if I could offer some advice/opinion/better way.

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