The past couple of months # 1 son and I have been doing remodel projects together, projects that he had acquired.
This past year when #1 son came back to work part time, I was the one who has lined up the work, and he was the helper.)
I caught myself a couple of times the past month, possibly overstepping my role. It happened again yesterday, so I decided to breach the subject this morning. The last thing I want to do is cause him additional work pressure.
It is one of my few pet peeves…
Working with a “know it all.”
I have traditionally hired people with little or no construction experience, intentionally. I would rather train someone to do it my way than constantly debate how to approach a given task. It makes for a long day.
The process of mentoring is not an exact science. It is a lot like parenting.
You haven’t ask, but I will give you the short version of my approach to parenting:
The goal of parenting is to work yourself out of a job.
Then, at some point, (changing word pictures), just like the eagle, there comes a time to “stirs the nest” ie. Kick young eagle out of nest where it’s flap or die… 🙂
It is important to know when to speak up and when to let the school of life kick in. I’ve always been a big advocate of letting natural consequences play themselves out. Told my young eagles early on, with a smile on my face, that if, in the event they found themselves behind bars, not to call looking for bail money.
Some of the most powerful life lessons are the ones not learned out of a book…but I digress.
Now that #1 son has begun to bid and line up work, I would rather err on the side of him asking me for my input rather than just assume he is looking for “suggestions” from his all-wise father.
The conversation this morning, went refreshingly well. Son assured me, I had not (yet) overstepped my bounds. He had not (yet) felt frustrated with me sticking my nose where he didn’t want it. On the contrary, he said, and I’m quoting now, “It is good to have several pair of eyes looking at certain situations…one person may see something another person is missing. It happens all the time in masonry work.”
Here are some action work photos from the past:
Learning to do flat work.
Teaching how to use a hand saw 20 years ago.
Flying solo, cutting tile with a wet saw and diamond blade.