Twice a month, my wife and a neighbor take turns driving to an Amish discount grocery store. It is a combination, girls day out, and a chance to save some serious $ on the food budget.
When I got home from work, the last time they made the trek, my wife looked at me and said, “We were almost killed this morning in a traffic accident.”
Our neighbor, is in her late 60’s, does not like to drive in traffic, and creeps along when she is out and about. Apparently, she (the neighbor) did not look to her right as she turned left out of the driveway. The Amish store is situated on a paved road, below the crest of a hill..accident waiting to happen. There is not a lot of traffic on it, but all it takes is one screw up. Just as they were about into their lane, a blue pickup truck, flew in front of them, going at least 60 mph. Both wife and neighbor were startled, and neighbor sheepishly admitted she had forgotten to look to her right.
THEN, as they were having this conversation, a semi barreled over the hill and passed them on their left…he too was flying, and had they been in an accident with the pickup truck moments before, there was little doubt in my wife’s mind, that the semi would have ran into all of them.
It is not my place to tell my wife, how to run her life, BUT I did suggest, she think twice about riding in the same car with the neighbor, if she is driving.
Wife had already made up her mind, that was the last time. I suggested saying something sooner than later about the driving arrangement, before the next trip rolls around. Both of us are pretty sure, our neighbor will not respond graciously when my wife breaks the news…Their next trip is coming up in a week or so…and neighbor reminded my wife on the phone yesterday, it was her turn to drive. Wife didn’t say anything on the phone.
I always think, as much as possible it is better to have those kind of conversations in person, rather than over the phone, via e-mail, etc. etc.
Any suggestions on how to have that conversation and how you would word it?
As far as I’m concerned, she is an accident waiting to happen. I can very easily see this drive a wedge in our neighborly relationship.