Have you ever been played by the flimflam man?
Completely different circumstances, one was more relational, but both left me feeling used, deceived, and angry.
Until just very recently, I would still find myself getting angry whenever I thought about either of them, and this would happen at the most random times, at least once a week.
This fall we were watching a mini series called Larkrise to Candleford. During an episode where a con artist by the name of Pegleg comes to town, Laura’s mother realizes, she and the whole town have been scammed by Pegleg…..and she is livid!!!~
I looked over at my wife and said…”That is exactly how I feel when I think about the flimflam man!”
Pegleg (aka the flimflam man)
Suddenly my random bouts of low grade anger did not feel quite so random, low-grade or irrational.
I felt validated.
Only thing is, I didn’t want to stay trapped in my anger for the rest of my life.
Ten years should have been enough time to process and move on…
Only it hasn’t.
I decided to take another run at it recently, (forgiveness) and finally, was able to disentangle myself from the anger….
I am thankful.
I am thankful for my encounters with the Flimflam man.
Not for what he did or did not do, but thankful for the personal growth that came out of it.
Thankful, because I am just a little wiser.
Thankful because I am better able to have hard conversations.
Thankful because it made us stronger as a couple.
Thankful for the four people in my life, who unbeknownst to each other, each came up at different times and expressed concern we might be getting used.
Thankful, my dealings with the flimflam man, did not leave me permanently poisoned in my willingness to trust.
Some of this relational/ people skills stuff can’t be learned from a book.
It has to be experienced.