“All flesh is like grass…and it’s glory, like the flower of grass…the grass withers, the flower falls…”
Growing up, I secretly thought I was ugly.
(I don’t feel that way anymore.)
(Although I am on the fast track to losing what’s left of my petals)
Petals = my youthful look.
The interesting thing is, the longer I live, the inner person of my heart continues to grow more and more contented and secure, even as the exterior husk which is my body, continues to dry up.
As I was setting up our self serve apple wagon this morning, my mind was thinking about the various motivations that drive people….ambition, greed, lust, anger, love, self sufficiency, quest for knowledge, justice, religious ferver, physical beauty…and my mind went to a brief encounter I had with a nurse on Friday as I was walking the halls of a local clinic. I’ll call her Jean.
We knew Jean before she was a nurse. Haven’t seen her in years. Always liked her. She’s sharp, articulate, and I’m sure makes a great nurse. I’ve always felt a little sadness when I’ve interacted with her. She’s projected this neediness with her beauty. On a scale of 1 t0 10, (physical beauty) I would give her a 10. That’s all well and good when you’re 20, or 30, or in her case 40, but now that she’s getting into her 50’s that same aging process that has been working me over, has finally started showing some effects on her perfect body. Her face was puffy.
I’ve said it more than once to my wife...”How is Jean going to deal with it, when she looses her youthful look? ” At that point, she better not have all her eggs in the “I am beautiful” basket.
There is external beauty and their is an inner beauty. (This applies to both men and women.)
Have you ever met a 70 or 80 year old person who radiates beauty? I have. It’s the hidden person of the heart. I’m probably not telling you anything you don’t already know, but just like an ice burg, where 70% is below water, so too, the bulk of who we really are is hidden, below the surface, and it has absolutely nothing to do with our exterior body.
So, if you’re concerned about the aging process and how you are going to deal with it…I have some good news for you. 🙂 You do have control over how you respond. If until now if your self worth has been wrapped up in your looks, it’s time to let that go. By all means, do your best to make yourself as physically attractive as you can, but it’s a loosing battle.
Here’s a suggestion…if you’re game 🙂 Find an older person who radiates beauty, (they’re out there) and ask them what makes them tick. Ask them how they dealt with the loss of their youth…
or go talk with a counselor. 🙂
We had a friend named Helen who passed away last Fall. She was well into her 80’s. I’ve written about her before. Helen was one of those people who radiated inner beauty. After the death of her sister, husband and grandson (by suicide) in less than a year’s time, in a candid moment, I asked her how she was able to deal with all of that heartache???
I really wanted to know.
Because she was not living in a state of denial.
Here’s what she said…“Doug, it’s not like I don’t grieve (because I do). It’s just that I’ve learned you have to let things go…or they will consume you.”