I could see by the glazed look in Jordan’s eyes this past Wednesday, he was under pressure…The pressure of trying to juggle all of the variables that come with coordinating a large remodel.
He looked at me mid sentence and laughed…”You really don’t care do you? “
I grinned, told him, “My mind was on zeroing in a new scope I bought for my gun and picking the green beans in my raised garden bed….”
We never know what pressures go with a particular line of work until we find ourselves in the middle of them. And at that point, it is often too late to do much about them, at least short-term.
One of my sisters is an RN. She used to work on the intensive care floor of a regional hospital…commute 45 minutes each way, and often time found herself pulling a shift she would rather not pull, but because of staffing, and the fact she had a house payment to make, she was stuck. Stress. Eventually, a new job opened up at a hospital closer to home with 9 to 5 hours, no overtime/ no weekends, dealing with people in rehab.
Have another friend who used to fly for a mid-sized private charter company. The guy who managed things was….dare I say it?…an “Ass” Absolutely no concern for how his decisions affected the families of the people who worked there…17 days away from home at a time was the norm. Everything was all about the almighty dollar. On top of everything else he was a bully. Verbally abusive. My friend gutted it out for several years before finding another flying job….and again, house payments, and other financial pressures were in the mix.
In my line of work (construction) work pressures can bury you. Scheduling, dealing with suppliers, cash flow, weather, conflict, help that doesn’t show, inspections, etc. And if you multiply that by more than one job at a time, it can be quite a ride.
My dad ran a construction company for years. At one point, they had twenty five guys on the payroll. Looking back, dad said they didn’t make that much more money than when they had a crew of nine or ten, just a lot more headaches. (Don’t think I didn’t tuck that little tidbit of information into my grey-matter.)
In the mid 1980’s my workaholics / people pleasing, unable to say “no” to anyone but my wife behavior came to a head. I was over committed/ burning the candle at both ends, with four little ones in tow. To this day, I just shake my head when I think about what I was doing…
Put this picture on the wall in front of my desk as a reminder:
Business does not equal progress…I can be spinning that wheel like a crazy man, and going nowhere.
Words are powerful.
Came across the following the same time…
If you make it to the top of the company ladder and lose your family in the process…you are a fool.”
Felt like someone took a two by four and rapped me across my nose.
Here are some new words I introduced into my vocabulary during that watershed season in my life..
Check it out.
It really is possible to retool your life.
I am a first-born, former workaholic and I just scored 36.
Question… What are some of the unexpected pressures that are part of your life you never anticipated ? Could be work, family, or other. DM