I ran into “Jackass” Friday at a Buy Fresh workshop . Here’s his picture:
He mentioned he and his wife hadn’t seen us for awhile (it’s been two years). I’m not sure what to do with him them relationally. He suggested we needed to get together again.
Every time we are with them- Virtually every time “Jackass” will say some form of …”It’s too bad you are here (meaning me ) …MM (my wife) is who I really enjoy seeing“. 😉 (or some variation of that statement)
We’ve known this couple for 8 years. He’s a 60 year old hippie, been married a time or two….he’s a big flirt with every attractive woman he sees…not just my wife… to be perfectly honest, for the first 5 years we knew them, I thought to myself..he’s harmless enough..that’s just “Jackass.”
Scripture talks about how the words we use are an index of our heart…both good and bad…we give others a glimpse into our hearts by what we talk about.
Anyway, 3 years ago, in another friendship we had as a couple…I kept insisting that the boyfriend of my wife’s good friend was an out and out pervert. Guys can pick up on things in other men, I swear women are sometimes blind to. My wife wasn’ t so sure, so I had to bite my tongue, so not to rock the boat. One day my wife comes home and says…”You were right about Wilbur. He is a pervert, he tried to kiss two women who stayed over night @ so and so’s house.”
I wept from the pent up turmoil I’d been carrying for over a year.
My wife and I had a heart to heart talk , we both agreed “Jackass” while not cut out of the same cloth as Wilbur, was a firt, why submit our marriage to that? So we backed off. It was hard because we did enjoy his wife’s company.
Any suggestions?….? Address things head on with Jackass and his wife? If so, where and when? Have you ever had to deal with this sort of thing?