Now I am no Pollyanna, I’ve worked for 40 plus years in the construction field, and have heard it all.
More than once.
I’m actually desensitized to profanity, having been around it so much.
Before we ate, we went around the table introducing ourselves
What made last night’s suggestive remarks by one of the men on the other end of the table so agitating were three things.
He started by saying he and his dear wife had been married for 60 years.
Secondly, he professes to be person of strong religious faith.
Thirdly, his suggestive comments were in mixed company.
There was (is) a real part of me that would have liked to call him out on it, but last night was not the place.
I am not a self-righteous twit….really I’m not. But the older I get, the less I am willing to give a pass to old men who think they can get away with telling crude jokes, because they’ve done it before.
I was on a tour of the Pella Window company manufacturing plant , along with several other builders and their clients. (There were 15 to 20 of us.) One of the contractors, (who happened to be a preferred Pella contractor) had brought along a young couple who were thinking about building a home. The contractor was 10 to 15 years older than me. Sharp dresser, quick wit, and a dirty mind. One suggestive sexual comment after another. (I’m not talking one slightly off-color comment but multiple.) I got home and vented to my wife about the unprofessional behavior I’d been witness to for a couple of hours. All I could think about was if that was my wife he had been hitting on, there would have been scene. Normally, if something like that is bothering me after talking about it with my wife, I am able to get it go…but in this case, I was still ticked, and not sure if I should say something to someone from Pella or not..
This was not a black and white situation, but because the guy did have a business relationship with Pella, I decided to follow up with a call to my Pella Rep. After I gave him specifics he said he was going to follow-up on it.
(Tour was on a Friday afternoon.)
The following Monday morning…6 AM, I was just starting to get ready for the day. My phone rings. It was the contractor I’d Narked on. He had some pointed questions for me and I gave him some pointed replies…in spite of the fact I was just waking up. 🙂
Normally a little sense of humor can go along ways in diffusing these kind of things…maybe it was the blatant hypocrisy that got me last night.
Sorry if this post is a little bit of a downer.
I try to stay away from venting here as much as possible….. but I do feel better now having written it out. 🙂
Any thoughts, comments, or questions? DM