Peace and Quiet. It Is Not For Sale, But…..

aspire to live quietlyChris and I were doing our normal random conversation gig @ coffee break last week.   I told him @ this point in my life “peace and quiet” are a high priority for me.  I proceeded to quote something I’d  written on an index card, which I have stuck on the dash of my truck..

“Aspire to live quietly…to mind your own affairs… 

He jumped in and finished it, “to work with your hands, so that you may command the respect of outsiders and be dependent on no one.”

Wow, I said..I’m impressed! 

Turns out, when he took my truck to town earlier that morning, he read (and liked) that  verse as well, and had already started putting it to memory.

If it were possible for you to crawl into my head and  listen to the self talk that goes on behind the scene, you would discover  I actively, (ruthlessly?)  guard and pursue some very basic and simple things in my heart and mind….

peace and quiet


It has not always been this way, and I would be the first to tell you, I have not yet arrived.


I am miles down the road from that season in my life where I thought it was my job to stay  continually  busy…especially in the arena of “christian” outreach and  service.   Youth group, men’s group,  couple’s group,  Sunday school, worship service, body life service, weekly Saturday work days.  Yep,  what I just described to you was a typical week in my life from 1985-1988…oh, and I forgot to mention, one day a week attending counseling classes @ CCEF, coming home at midnight to a wife and  2 small children, only to get up and go to work @ 6 AM the next day.

Someone compared my life to a gushing fire hose.

I still meet people on occasion who remind me of my younger self.  People pleasing, adrenaline junkies, who confuse business and a packed calendar with a productive fruitful life.

Burning the candle on both ends in the name of “ministry”  or  career advancement is not a virtue.   Might  be a way to drown out the inner poverty, but definitely not  a way to live life that  I  aspire to  (anymore.)

Feel free to disagree and do otherwise.  😉

side note- (Ever seen an apple tree grunt to produce fruit?…. – No, me neither)

At one point, Chris  said  , -“As the outer, so the inner.”

“What does that mean,” I asked?

“I think it means, the ideal is for our inner life and our outer life  to match.  Not just look peaceful on the outside, but practically speaking experience peace on the inside. “

(Now isn’t that a novel thought, I  thought to myself)

I’ll close  with a quote from the book The Anxiety Cure by Archibald Hart which also continues to shape the direction of my life :

You can’t escape the realities of our high-stress world.  You certainly can’t turn back the clock to simpler times – although, I must confess, this is a wonderful fantasy that I occasionally indulge as a form of escape.  I frequently reflect on the many happy childhood times I had with my grandparents.  They lived a simple, country life.  They were totally self-sufficient, tilling a small piece of land and raising their own food. ….With only a shortwave radio to connect them to the rest of the world, life seemed siple yet luxurious to me as a child.  There was a sense of unhurriedness and simple pleasures.  All the money in the world couldn’t buy such luxury in today’s world.  It is not for sale; you have to create it.”


I’ll close with some random pictures  from our  home, which we’ve created since that painful fateful season in my life when  I stopped confusing business with fruitfulness:

August night2012

to the east


crates in the cooler2011

sq ft gardening4

Originally wrote this back in 2013 on another blog.

Reposting it this morning as a reminder to myself.  🙂 My inner self talk recently has had more low grade anxiety, and stress than normal.

(See Bill’s post this morning on a similar train of thought)

It’s Labor Day weekend.  What do you have planned?  

And what do I have planned you ask?….

Dropping off some apples at  the farmers market, bake some apple turnovers with my wife, and maybe  get started on another harvest table…it is supposed to look like this when I’m finished:

truss beam table for Katie fuller


14 thoughts on “Peace and Quiet. It Is Not For Sale, But…..

  1. Your weekend sounds wonderful, as does the look of that table. I can still remember the time when I was working, and looked so eagerly to a long weekend, then felt guilty if that weekend wasn’t filled with little chores, or big chores. Now, with limited ability to actively take on projects, or work at a real job, I long for those ‘too busy’ days. My brain, and the understanding that some really enjoyable weekend projects are just no longer available to me, just hasn’t caught up with my arthritic, creaky, painful, unyielding body. The head and the hands (and other parts) are still at war battling over what they can and can’t do.

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    • My grandpa used to voice some of the same thing when he and I would be out cutting wood. Have you written about that inner tension/ battle? I would like to read it if you have. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment Deb. DM


      • I’ve written bits and pieces about these ongoing issues with arthritis DM, but when I do it often feels like whining. I haven’t found a way to balance the facts of “this is what I live with” versus the idea in my head that others will look on my words as a plea to join some sort of pity-me party…

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        • I have an idea. (I totally get what you mean about not wanting to sound like you are whining btw) I am genuinely curious as to what that must be like to live w/ chronic arthritis….etc. What would you think about me “interviewing” you via a series of questions which could then be turned into a blog post for people who are also experiencing similar things (or people in their lives who want to know more etc. etc. We could even keep you totally anonymous if you like, so you don’t feel like someone would think you are whining…(think reporter interviewing someone for a news story) Just a are not a whiner, or you would not be so hesitant to write about it more…anyway, think about it…as someone who has not as yet experienced this sort of thing, I am genuinely curious. DM


          • I appreciate that you want to know more, and honestly I would be up for an interview rather it turns into a blog post or not 🙂 Feel free to gather up some questions you feel are pertinent and send them on to my personal email as I rarely check my blog email. I’ll send the answers on back to you and they will be yours to do with as you wish. If you decide to run a blog post, there really isn’t any reason to keep things anonymous as I’m okay with folks having my identity. Thanks DM.

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  2. That table looks lovely to aspire to recreate! Love this post and can definitely relate, and of course i can’t agree more about the need to slow down. I think we as humans tend to attribute our worth and happiness to external factors (overexerting ourselves at work, committee mtgs, material things, etc) until we truly gain insight/awareness of our internal self in order to narrow down our activities to things that really energize us and make us happy.

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    • Can’t wait to see this table come into existence. That is one of the simple pleasures of working with my hands…watching an idea become reality. Reread that link you posted on facebook the other day..(the one about discouragement) I know I have said it to you before, but I do appreciate how you model processing life. DM


  3. I got to see the Grand Canyon yesterday! W00t! It made me cry to see such magnificence. God’s creation is. A. Maz. Ing! Also got to see the red rocks of Sedona. Spectacular day. I love Arizona so much!

    I’m really striving for the peace and quiet too. Striving isn’t a good word. Let me say I’m guarding the peace and quiet. I don’t ever want to jump back onto the Christian hamster wheel again. Just loving on the ones I bump into on the way, sharing Jesus with them, focusing on being prepared to give them the good news as I go. No more extra work necessary. Happy un Labor Day friend! Say hello to Mrs DM.

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    • I remember seeing the Grand Canyon for the first time…(same trip we drove past the red rocks of Sedona)..Glad you are having a good time…and stay on the mountain! (ie. no more of that Jack and Jill stuff) Will give her your greetings. (love the cowgirl picture I just saw on FB) DM

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